I am a university graduated 53 y.o. man from Istanbul Turkey.
When I turned back from Russia in 2012 I found a job and started to work in a big company. To do my job, my expertise, my profession. I had worked as a project manager in a leading fairs and exhibition company for 14 years before 2011 and then I started to work in an other one, the rival company in 2012. But this second one was not good. There were several problems with the company and 80-90% of employees could not work longer than 1 year there but flee away from that company. Meanwhile I had some health problems. I had cardiology problems. I had to go to hospitals and doctors quite often for some tests, diagnosis and treatments. It became a problem for the company. They started to complain I had to take permission to go out often and could not work those days. And also doctors have prohibited me stress but that company was full of stress. I left that job. And then I did some freelance jobs for short periods. It is not easy to find a new job at this age, to start to work at a new company as I am over 50 now. And I have always kept my dream to live in Russia. Moreover recently last year it was detected an other health problem during routine checks. Now doctors concern of a possibility of prostate cancer...... A specific blood test about prostate cancer PSA is quite high. Doctors recommended biopsy and it was done. Due to results they said I am not cancer but it is still suspicious and it will be done again in a few months to keep monitoring the situation. By the way my health problems have been mostly solved. I use medicines regularly and I am much better now. My situation has become stable and I can live a normal usual life like any person. Doctors say I may live like any usual, normal person and there is nothing to reduce my life quality. So I wait for biopsy but meanwhile I am ready to work again. I worked in some small companies, basic minor, unprofessional jobs, small business in last 1-2 years. Sometimes in some works I even could not get salary and other money which I deserved like my sales premiums. They paid less than I deserved in some works. Because those were small, unprofessional modest companies. In last years I had extra and unexpected expenses nevertheless unfortunately very few incoming. It was the worst timing it could be those years I had maximum expenses but minimum incoming. I had to use bank loans. I visited my daughter 3-4 times a year in Russia. I needed money for plane tickets, Russian visa and hotel accommodations and daily expenses during my Russia trips,.I spent money for my gifts to my daughter and alimony to Ira for my daughter (150 USD per month). I needed money also for the expenses of court cases two times. However I needed money also for usual daily life in Istanbul as every person needs. Shortly I had to spend much more than I earned and I used credit cards and bank loans. Now I owe money to some banks for over 8000 USD but I can not pay back. With the delay those loans have had extremely over rates and the monthly pay backs of the loans have become out of sustainable no more. So I am literally bankrupted financially. Now creditor banks filed a lawsuit and have started a legal execution to me. When I will start to work now the banks will get 1/4 of my incoming every month. My mom has a modest flat in Istanbul. When she dies it will be heritage to me but it is not enough to close my loans as they are increasing every day with over high rates...... Legally the banks will have a right to get it from me and sale the flat to cash money. I can not pay monthly alimony to Ira for last 2 years. I owe to her more than 3500 USD in total. In fact she never needs that money. Their life standards are good. They live in a doublex house in a yard in Northern London. Everybody may have an idea about its price. Their car is a luxury BMW. Ira's elder daughter continues university. Her new husband has a logistics and moving company and several trucks. He is also a computer engineer and an author. He has 3 sci-fi books published in New York. So shortly neither Ira nor Alara needs my money but Ira demanded alimony only as a revenge to punish me. I did not accept her request to give up my parental rights on my daughter and allow her husband to adopt my daughter and rejected cooperation and stipulation. But in my opinion if I did it would be a kind of "selling my daughter" to her stepfather. It was unacceptable and out of ethic for me. Irina did not demand any alimony for our daughter in 2014 when she filed a lawsuit to divorce me. She was not married and she had much less incoming then but she did not request any payment. But later though she does not need money now she requested an alimony despite she knew I can not pay.
In August 2018 Irina told me that they would have a visit to Russia for 2 weeks to visit her parents. She suggested me to come to Russia during their visit to see my daughter, to meet with her. I was working in a small modest fairs and exhibitions company in Antalya at that moment. They paid so few salary but they accepted to buy my plane tickets and pay my visa because they had a task in Moscow. The company would hold a fruits and vegetables fair and they needed some promotional work for potential visitors in Moscow. So I went to Moscow for business for 3 days and then I would spend 2 more days with my daughter in Vladimir. It was a great chance for me because I did not have an opportunity to visit my daughter in Russia nor England in an other way. I called Irina in Moscow and told her that I would visit them the next day. She asked me if I would pay the total amount of money of those months I could not pay the alimony. She said I had to pay the whole amount at once if I did not want to have troubles. She said she might call police and cause me to be arrested. I made a small search if she told the truth or not. I called that Azerbaijani lawyer and he confirmed that Ira might request police to arrest me. So urgently I had to turn back to Turkey, to escape to Turkey in panic. But the whole family manipulated this incident and told my daughter that I just ignored her and I did not want to see her. They said I did not care Anna and did not care of her and pay attention. She was offended and now she refuses even to speak with me on Skype. So since then I have lost any kind of contact with my daughter and that terrible family even does not give any information about my daughter. I have no idea how is she, what is she doing...... Even the worse case is that if Irina really applied to police and demanded them to arrest me then it means I can not go to Russia now. In such a case if I visit Russia I may be arrested......
Though Irina divorced me in Russia I am still legally married on paper here in Turkey. The procedure and process is much more complicated and difficult here with a lot of bureaucracy. I live in Istanbul in the town of Kartal and in 2018 I applied to local court to file a divorce case. Because I want to break free and become free and single again to continue my life. They told me that it would be longer and more difficult process because it was an international case. It was very difficult but I could learn their address in England and provided it to the court but the court gave me documents consist of more than 20 pages and they asked for me to translate them as 2 pairs each. So totally it would be more than 40 pages to be translated. They requested me also to notarize all the documents. It was so expensive and I could not do it. The result was bitter. Abatement of accuse..... At the moment I live in my mom's home with her and with my aunt. For long time I have no incoming but also no expenditure. But my mom is just an ordinary pensioner with modest and limited salary. She also does not have such a money to give me. So my an other problem is the fact that I am still married with her legally in Turkey.
I need the help of anybody who can do it please to establish a life in Russia or London, to find a good wife and work again. First of all if you are a lawyer in Russia, or if you know such a lawyer accepts to help me for free, right now you can save my life and future. You may help me financially by giving money or you may defend me in the court or you may help me to find a job and earn money if you can. Please dont think you have nothing to do, you can not help me. Everybody can do something, at least by forwarding this blog to friends helping me to promote it to people as many as possible to increase my chance.
I was married with a Russian woman. I loved her very much. We have had a daughter in 2009. My wonderful daughter was born. But I had been able to be with her only till her 1,5 age.
When we
got marry with my ex wife Ira she had a 9 years old daughter Raisa from her
first marriage with the Russian husband. Ira divorced when Raisa was 4 years
old. Now Raisa is 23 years old. She is a very capricious and selfish girl. She
is used to do everything she wants. Because Ira has always felt guilty herself
about Raisa to lose her father so early, she has lived almost all her life
without her father. Ira feels guilty and she pampers Raisa, tries to be her
mother and also father. She tries to compensate Raisa's father's absence. And
Raisa uses this. She is a Leo as zodiac sign and she tries to rule the family
and manage everybody. Her mother, grandmother and grandfather always allowed
her but I could not accept to be managed by a 9 years old girl. It seems to me
Raisa has never respected me and loved me. Only words most often I heard she said during my marriage to somebody were "I want" and "I dont want". She has a
difficult character. It seems to me even her own father does not love her and
she does not have good relations with her own father. Though he lives in Russia
as well as Raisa did, they meet 1 or 2 times a year. However I had mistakes too. I
had some shortcomings and mistakes too. I was not experienced at parenting and
I could not manage the situation. So I had problems with my stepdaughter. I
have never beat her but there was not a peaceful and happy family
because of we non stopped to struggle. Finally I requested from Ira to
bring Raisa to Russia. I told that I could not live with Raisa. I suggested Ira's
parents grow up Raisa. I said let her live with her grandma and grandpa.
Ira did not accept this and said "I am going too, we are going together in
this case". I changed my mind and gave up from my request in one day, I apologized my wife and I
told Ira that Raisa could stay, she does not has to go. But Ira had already
lost her trust to me and she left me and turned back to Russia in 2011. My own
daughter Anna was 1,5 years old when they left. Since then Ira has never
allowed my daughter Anna to visit me in Turkey. But we did not divorce with
Ira for a few years. We were not in a hurry as non of us was planning to get marry again. And
we decided to try once more but in Russia this time. I bought
some products from Turkey to sale in Russia with all my money. I planned to
make suitcase trading. I brought to Russia Turkish products blue jeans, clothes
for kids, threads, towels, fabrics etc. I lived in their home for 4 months. But
like a stranger. We were not like husband and wife with Ira. I stayed in a room
in her home and even her hand did not touch my hand during those 4 months. We
were like strangers in the home. But again my problems continued with Raisa.
She behaved even worse this time in better conditions for her. I was in their
home and she considered this as a total defeat and surrendering for me. She
started to behave even more disrespectful as all the conditions were in favor
her much more this time. And also I had problems about the job. It was very
difficult without any contacts in Russia. I could not speak Russian and I could
not market my products. There was no client ready for me. Ira could not help me
so much as she worked. Initially we planned to establish an online Internet
shop and to sale something as on line but it was necessary a virtual POS system
in our web site for clients to pay by their credit cards but banks did not do
it as I had not a company in Russia. They said I should establish a company in
Russia first. But I could not trust the conditions for an investment. Because
my work was not good and also my private life at home was bad with problems with
Raisa again. My products were not cheap enough to compete with Chinese
analogues. Because cargo expenses were quite much as I could not do it with
professional international shipping like commercial big companies do. Finally I
had to present almost all the products to people, my daughter, Ira, Raisa, Ira's
friends, relatives. And Ira used some threads for her hobby works and I brought
back some of my products and I had to waste some of them. And I just finished
my business adventure and lost all my hopes and dreams for a life in Russia. I liked
the life in Russia very much. I love everything about Russia but I had to turn
back. But I had always preserved and conserved my plans and hopes to live in
Russia. I love Russia very much. I want to live in Vladimir. My loved city. You may read my opinions and feelings about it in my post in my blog here I want and plan to live in my loved Vladimir in whole my life. But there are several problems about it. First of all I must find a way to earn money to survive in Russia. While it is difficult to find a job even for Russians I have almost no chance with my bad Russian. Nevertheless there is a Russian law requires good Russian skills for foreigners to have a working visa in Russia. I need and request help from everybody about those problems please.
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In 2014 Ira got acquainted with an English man from London and started a
love affair with him. So she divorced from me in 2014. They got marry and Ira tried to move to London with her daughters to live in England for
her 3. th marriage. But it was not easy.
My daughter initially did not want to move to London and live with Colin. We were crying mutually in Skype with Anna. However I signed a document in notary in Vladimir and gave permission to Ira to bring my daughter to London. But Ira told me when she applied to British embassy in Moscow they refused to give accommodation visa to my daughter. Ira says they dont want migrants and they are against to accept possible 5 more migrants by one marriage. She said according to British migration regulations if the girls get an residence permit form the UK in 3 years they will have a right to get British citizenship and then their father- me and Andrei will be able to enter and stay in the UK. So Ira and her 2 daughters and their fathers, totally 5 new migrants with one marriage...... According to my ex wife, British embassy suggested her to give her an residence permit but without her kids. So Ira and her new husband searched a solution to overcome that crisis. He spoke with some lawyers in London and learned there was a way to bring the girl to London. Ira told me that if she could say and prove them she is Anna’s the only parent, Anna needs and dependent desperately to Ira and she has nobody else in this life, only then Britain would have to accept her and will give permission to Ira to bring her to London. Since I am her father England does not give permission and visa to Anna to live there. Ira told me that he did this suggestion also to her first -Russian husband about her elder daughter Raisa, to give up his parental rights and allow her new English husband Colin to adopt the girl and become her legal father. Their lawyer recommended them this is the best way for Colin to adopt the girls and to be their father legally in the UK. So Ira applied to the court in Russia to delete my name from Anna's passport. She tried to provide me not to be my daughter's father no more legally. She tired to prove I have not paid any money, alimony for Anna for almost 2 years. But in that period Ira has earned much money by giving private English lessons but I have not had any incoming because of my serious health problems. As much as provides her elder daughter to study in a private school and to visit many countries abroad including Egypt, Italy and visited London 4-5 times a year. Her economic situation was so good she could spend some extra unnecessary expenses and that's why she did not request money from me. She knew about my health problems like heart disease, asthma and concerns about a possible prostate cancer. I could not work long time but I had to continue my monthly expenses and payments. So when she divorced from me Ira did not request any alimony and the court did not order it to me in 2014. In 2016 the court rejected her claim and request and confirmed me as her father legally but actually I am a de facto loser. Because the court ordered me to pay 150 USD every month to Ira but I did not have a job and any incoming at that moment. And even worse the court limited my opportunity to meet with my daughter, to see her in her mother’s presence. This makes my meetings impossible to be joyful, pleasant and even possible. Because even from the first moment, in our first experience, Ira has started to do everything to spoil it, to sabotage it. We could spend very good, pleasant time with my daughter alone but after that court decision her mom tried to spoil our meetings with my daughter. Anna needed to look at her mom’s eyes to embrace me, to kiss me with a begging face for her mother's permission. I afraid of the possibility my daughter to forget me and even perhaps to start to hate me in short time. Because her mom, elder sister, grandma and perhaps stepfather all tell her something negative about me. They all try to convince her what a bad person I am..... Nevertheless her stepfather is a businessman and has enough money to buy expensive and joyful gifts to her to conquer her heart. Once he brought a big, expensive, professional synthesizer from London to Russia as a gift to my daughter. The court in Russia also denied my one more very important demand in 2016. The judge ordered that I can see my daughter only 2 cities in the world, Vladimir or London..... What a ridiculous and strange decision!!!!..... I have lost my chance to see her even in Moscow or Manchester for example. Above all I can not meet with my daughter in her own country, her birth place, Turkey..... She is also a Turkish citizen but Russian court refused my demand to bring her to her homeland, her birth place. My mom is 85 now and she did not see her only grandchild since 2011. Probably she will die without such an opportunity. Believe me my daughter was a very king, polite, sweet lovely girl. She was a very good girl and loved me so much. I publish our many photos and videos with her in this blog as examples.
A few months later I filed an appeal in Vladimir to change the court decision. There were 3 judges in appellate court but they even did not listen me this time. I could speak a few and then they just interrupted me. I already have a language barrier problem and also the judges were not so kind and fair in this upper court. They did not provide me a translator and I could not find a good one. An amateur boy who knew some English tried to help me but he could not interpret much of content of my speech and arguments. So the court refused my objection. Russia is allegedly known with corruption by many people in the west. There are famous claims about bribe requesting authorities in Russia for decades. I remember my ex wife took a fake report from police in 2009. She needed her ex husband!s permission to bring her daughter here but he did not accept this. Then Ira told me that she gave money to a police officer and took a legal report about her husband to be lost despite this was not true. She used this document at the airport to bring her daughter to Turkey without his permission. So giving bribe worked to solve her problem then. I have doubts if she used the same way again and her businessman English husband gave bribe to judges. Who knows......
Somehow they found a way to move to England in August 2017. Now they all live in a town named Cheshunt located 65 kilometres north of London. And now to see my daughter, to meet with her for me has become de facto impossible in reality. Because I can not get a British visa as I am jobless now and also because it is very expensive for me such a visit. Flight tickets and hotel accommodation fees are too much for me. Above all my relations with Ira is so bad she even refuses to give me their address and phone number Nevertheless I could not visit my daughter since June 2017. I am 53 and she is my only child. Probably I will not have any other child. Perhaps I even can not get marry again...... My daughter loved me very much and she felt pity for the circumstance. She was upset about me and her and she felt pity for me. But now her mother says she is offended to me and she does not love me, want me no more. Ira says Anna Alara does not want any communication with me. There is one more dimension of the issue. My daughter is also a Turkish citizen. My ex wife deceived me and captured and kidnapped my daughter illegally in 2011. She is a real fraud. When we lived in Istanbul she promised me to turn back within one month and bring back my daughter but she never kept her promise. She even divorced me with lies and fraud. She gave a wrong address to the court allegedly my address and naturally no documents from the court reached at me. I could not be informed about the court case. I did not know I had a divorce court in Russia. Ira gave the court a fake address claiming my address. It should be even a crime in my opinion. So it seems to me it is also an international crime she committed, kidnaping my daughter without my permission.
I needed a lawyer to struggle with Ira in an other court with a next lawsuit. Actually I found but I did not have enough money. The lawyer should speak English or Turkish to communicate with me as my Russian is very insufficient. But on the other hand he/she must be Russian to know very well Russian laws. It is not easy as very few of Russians know good English. I found one in Moscow, a Russian citizen but ethnically Azerbaijani but he requested 3000 USD. I could never find it..... It required me that money to go to Vladimir to defend me (it is much more difficult to visit Russia now for me than it was in the past) I did not have so much money for the lawyer. Now I have to watch myself losing my most beloved, my most important person. It is like she is water dropping between my fingers and I can not do anything. First time in my life I am so pessimistic about myself in life. I should file a lawsuit in Russia again or perhaps it is better to do it in England. I am not sure which is better under the current conditions.
Meanwhile in 2016 my ex wife Irina sent me an e mail and told me that our daughter Anna Alara had serious health problems. She talked about a hormonal disorder. She said Anna' height and height was over. She said her values were 4-5 age ahead of her. Anna Alara was 7 then but she had the sizes of a 10-12 girl. Furthermore Irina told me that her pubic hair had started to grow and menstruation had started. Can you imagine at her 7!!!!..... Ira told me that it required much money to cure her. I replied her I did not have such a money but I could provide her free good quality healthcare in all state hospitals in Turkey. My daughter is a Turkish citizen and she can get any kind of healthcare as free in Turkey. I suggested Ira to cure Anna here in Turkey but she refused. The situation worried me very much. I had big concerns about my daughter's health. After months silently passed Ira sent me a lot of pages of medical reports but they were all in Russian. I did not have such a money to translate them into Turkish or English. So I could not understand anything what the documents said. Irina said she would continue her treatment in England. But for almost 4 years no news, no information about it. Now I dont know even if my daughter is healthy or not. In past I could speak with my daughter at least on Skype every Sunday but it has passed almost 4 years without any communication.
A few months later I filed an appeal in Vladimir to change the court decision. There were 3 judges in appellate court but they even did not listen me this time. I could speak a few and then they just interrupted me. I already have a language barrier problem and also the judges were not so kind and fair in this upper court. They did not provide me a translator and I could not find a good one. An amateur boy who knew some English tried to help me but he could not interpret much of content of my speech and arguments. So the court refused my objection. Russia is allegedly known with corruption by many people in the west. There are famous claims about bribe requesting authorities in Russia for decades. I remember my ex wife took a fake report from police in 2009. She needed her ex husband!s permission to bring her daughter here but he did not accept this. Then Ira told me that she gave money to a police officer and took a legal report about her husband to be lost despite this was not true. She used this document at the airport to bring her daughter to Turkey without his permission. So giving bribe worked to solve her problem then. I have doubts if she used the same way again and her businessman English husband gave bribe to judges. Who knows......
Somehow they found a way to move to England in August 2017. Now they all live in a town named Cheshunt located 65 kilometres north of London. And now to see my daughter, to meet with her for me has become de facto impossible in reality. Because I can not get a British visa as I am jobless now and also because it is very expensive for me such a visit. Flight tickets and hotel accommodation fees are too much for me. Above all my relations with Ira is so bad she even refuses to give me their address and phone number Nevertheless I could not visit my daughter since June 2017. I am 53 and she is my only child. Probably I will not have any other child. Perhaps I even can not get marry again...... My daughter loved me very much and she felt pity for the circumstance. She was upset about me and her and she felt pity for me. But now her mother says she is offended to me and she does not love me, want me no more. Ira says Anna Alara does not want any communication with me. There is one more dimension of the issue. My daughter is also a Turkish citizen. My ex wife deceived me and captured and kidnapped my daughter illegally in 2011. She is a real fraud. When we lived in Istanbul she promised me to turn back within one month and bring back my daughter but she never kept her promise. She even divorced me with lies and fraud. She gave a wrong address to the court allegedly my address and naturally no documents from the court reached at me. I could not be informed about the court case. I did not know I had a divorce court in Russia. Ira gave the court a fake address claiming my address. It should be even a crime in my opinion. So it seems to me it is also an international crime she committed, kidnaping my daughter without my permission.
I needed a lawyer to struggle with Ira in an other court with a next lawsuit. Actually I found but I did not have enough money. The lawyer should speak English or Turkish to communicate with me as my Russian is very insufficient. But on the other hand he/she must be Russian to know very well Russian laws. It is not easy as very few of Russians know good English. I found one in Moscow, a Russian citizen but ethnically Azerbaijani but he requested 3000 USD. I could never find it..... It required me that money to go to Vladimir to defend me (it is much more difficult to visit Russia now for me than it was in the past) I did not have so much money for the lawyer. Now I have to watch myself losing my most beloved, my most important person. It is like she is water dropping between my fingers and I can not do anything. First time in my life I am so pessimistic about myself in life. I should file a lawsuit in Russia again or perhaps it is better to do it in England. I am not sure which is better under the current conditions.
Meanwhile in 2016 my ex wife Irina sent me an e mail and told me that our daughter Anna Alara had serious health problems. She talked about a hormonal disorder. She said Anna' height and height was over. She said her values were 4-5 age ahead of her. Anna Alara was 7 then but she had the sizes of a 10-12 girl. Furthermore Irina told me that her pubic hair had started to grow and menstruation had started. Can you imagine at her 7!!!!..... Ira told me that it required much money to cure her. I replied her I did not have such a money but I could provide her free good quality healthcare in all state hospitals in Turkey. My daughter is a Turkish citizen and she can get any kind of healthcare as free in Turkey. I suggested Ira to cure Anna here in Turkey but she refused. The situation worried me very much. I had big concerns about my daughter's health. After months silently passed Ira sent me a lot of pages of medical reports but they were all in Russian. I did not have such a money to translate them into Turkish or English. So I could not understand anything what the documents said. Irina said she would continue her treatment in England. But for almost 4 years no news, no information about it. Now I dont know even if my daughter is healthy or not. In past I could speak with my daughter at least on Skype every Sunday but it has passed almost 4 years without any communication.
When I turned back from Russia in 2012 I found a job and started to work in a big company. To do my job, my expertise, my profession. I had worked as a project manager in a leading fairs and exhibition company for 14 years before 2011 and then I started to work in an other one, the rival company in 2012. But this second one was not good. There were several problems with the company and 80-90% of employees could not work longer than 1 year there but flee away from that company. Meanwhile I had some health problems. I had cardiology problems. I had to go to hospitals and doctors quite often for some tests, diagnosis and treatments. It became a problem for the company. They started to complain I had to take permission to go out often and could not work those days. And also doctors have prohibited me stress but that company was full of stress. I left that job. And then I did some freelance jobs for short periods. It is not easy to find a new job at this age, to start to work at a new company as I am over 50 now. And I have always kept my dream to live in Russia. Moreover recently last year it was detected an other health problem during routine checks. Now doctors concern of a possibility of prostate cancer...... A specific blood test about prostate cancer PSA is quite high. Doctors recommended biopsy and it was done. Due to results they said I am not cancer but it is still suspicious and it will be done again in a few months to keep monitoring the situation. By the way my health problems have been mostly solved. I use medicines regularly and I am much better now. My situation has become stable and I can live a normal usual life like any person. Doctors say I may live like any usual, normal person and there is nothing to reduce my life quality. So I wait for biopsy but meanwhile I am ready to work again. I worked in some small companies, basic minor, unprofessional jobs, small business in last 1-2 years. Sometimes in some works I even could not get salary and other money which I deserved like my sales premiums. They paid less than I deserved in some works. Because those were small, unprofessional modest companies. In last years I had extra and unexpected expenses nevertheless unfortunately very few incoming. It was the worst timing it could be those years I had maximum expenses but minimum incoming. I had to use bank loans. I visited my daughter 3-4 times a year in Russia. I needed money for plane tickets, Russian visa and hotel accommodations and daily expenses during my Russia trips,.I spent money for my gifts to my daughter and alimony to Ira for my daughter (150 USD per month). I needed money also for the expenses of court cases two times. However I needed money also for usual daily life in Istanbul as every person needs. Shortly I had to spend much more than I earned and I used credit cards and bank loans. Now I owe money to some banks for over 8000 USD but I can not pay back. With the delay those loans have had extremely over rates and the monthly pay backs of the loans have become out of sustainable no more. So I am literally bankrupted financially. Now creditor banks filed a lawsuit and have started a legal execution to me. When I will start to work now the banks will get 1/4 of my incoming every month. My mom has a modest flat in Istanbul. When she dies it will be heritage to me but it is not enough to close my loans as they are increasing every day with over high rates...... Legally the banks will have a right to get it from me and sale the flat to cash money. I can not pay monthly alimony to Ira for last 2 years. I owe to her more than 3500 USD in total. In fact she never needs that money. Their life standards are good. They live in a doublex house in a yard in Northern London. Everybody may have an idea about its price. Their car is a luxury BMW. Ira's elder daughter continues university. Her new husband has a logistics and moving company and several trucks. He is also a computer engineer and an author. He has 3 sci-fi books published in New York. So shortly neither Ira nor Alara needs my money but Ira demanded alimony only as a revenge to punish me. I did not accept her request to give up my parental rights on my daughter and allow her husband to adopt my daughter and rejected cooperation and stipulation. But in my opinion if I did it would be a kind of "selling my daughter" to her stepfather. It was unacceptable and out of ethic for me. Irina did not demand any alimony for our daughter in 2014 when she filed a lawsuit to divorce me. She was not married and she had much less incoming then but she did not request any payment. But later though she does not need money now she requested an alimony despite she knew I can not pay.
In August 2018 Irina told me that they would have a visit to Russia for 2 weeks to visit her parents. She suggested me to come to Russia during their visit to see my daughter, to meet with her. I was working in a small modest fairs and exhibitions company in Antalya at that moment. They paid so few salary but they accepted to buy my plane tickets and pay my visa because they had a task in Moscow. The company would hold a fruits and vegetables fair and they needed some promotional work for potential visitors in Moscow. So I went to Moscow for business for 3 days and then I would spend 2 more days with my daughter in Vladimir. It was a great chance for me because I did not have an opportunity to visit my daughter in Russia nor England in an other way. I called Irina in Moscow and told her that I would visit them the next day. She asked me if I would pay the total amount of money of those months I could not pay the alimony. She said I had to pay the whole amount at once if I did not want to have troubles. She said she might call police and cause me to be arrested. I made a small search if she told the truth or not. I called that Azerbaijani lawyer and he confirmed that Ira might request police to arrest me. So urgently I had to turn back to Turkey, to escape to Turkey in panic. But the whole family manipulated this incident and told my daughter that I just ignored her and I did not want to see her. They said I did not care Anna and did not care of her and pay attention. She was offended and now she refuses even to speak with me on Skype. So since then I have lost any kind of contact with my daughter and that terrible family even does not give any information about my daughter. I have no idea how is she, what is she doing...... Even the worse case is that if Irina really applied to police and demanded them to arrest me then it means I can not go to Russia now. In such a case if I visit Russia I may be arrested......
Though Irina divorced me in Russia I am still legally married on paper here in Turkey. The procedure and process is much more complicated and difficult here with a lot of bureaucracy. I live in Istanbul in the town of Kartal and in 2018 I applied to local court to file a divorce case. Because I want to break free and become free and single again to continue my life. They told me that it would be longer and more difficult process because it was an international case. It was very difficult but I could learn their address in England and provided it to the court but the court gave me documents consist of more than 20 pages and they asked for me to translate them as 2 pairs each. So totally it would be more than 40 pages to be translated. They requested me also to notarize all the documents. It was so expensive and I could not do it. The result was bitter. Abatement of accuse..... At the moment I live in my mom's home with her and with my aunt. For long time I have no incoming but also no expenditure. But my mom is just an ordinary pensioner with modest and limited salary. She also does not have such a money to give me. So my an other problem is the fact that I am still married with her legally in Turkey.
An other problem is that my mom's health. She has mental problems. Heart problems, high blood pressure but above all bipolar disorder in advanced phase. It may make her aggressive or depressive dramatically. Day by day it becomes more and more difficult to deal with her. It has turned a torture to live with my ill mom and a very bad charactered aunt. Meanwhile living in Turkey has also very difficult and disadvantageous. Not only terrible economic crisis bu also significant reduce at security in public. In last a few years crime rate has dramatically increased. Daily public violence, fights for almost nothing, murderings, raping, burglary, fraud and such crimes have almost been normal and usual in Turkey. For me it is not a safe place to live now.
I will try to find a good job and start to work again here in Istanbul. But when I overlook the situation logically and rationally I think it is the best way, or even let me say the only way seems me to work abroad if it is possible. Especially in Russia or England. If somehow I will be able to get permit to live and to work in Britain or in Russia this may partly solve the problems of all parties, me, Ira, her husband and Anna. Because Ira says she will have visits to Russia 1-2 times a year with the kids and they will stay in Russia approximately one month each.
I will try to find a good job and start to work again here in Istanbul. But when I overlook the situation logically and rationally I think it is the best way, or even let me say the only way seems me to work abroad if it is possible. Especially in Russia or England. If somehow I will be able to get permit to live and to work in Britain or in Russia this may partly solve the problems of all parties, me, Ira, her husband and Anna. Because Ira says she will have visits to Russia 1-2 times a year with the kids and they will stay in Russia approximately one month each.
Dear Russian friends
You hosted Nazim Hikmet from Turkey and recently Edward Snowden from USA. It is your way, your nice and kind character to host desperate people who needs your help even from adversary countries. Please believe me, trust me. I am your friend, I really love Russia very much. Eto Pravda. I love Russia even more than some Russian citizens who try to flee from Russia like my ex wife. You have strong and serious enemies unfortunately. They are powerful and enable to do many great things you know. Bad guys, your enemies somehow can enter into your country whatever you do. Or they can basically hire some betraying Russian citizens. You all know it very well with lived experiences. Many foreign NGOs have been banned because of this in Russia. They can find a way but please dont stop the innocents who love you to live in your country. It was the miracle factor made the USA so strong their open door policy during centuries made the country an attraction center for many talent and clever people like Nikolay Tesla from everywhere in the world. I can not promise you to do all he did but I promise you to work for Russia with all my will and power.
I need the help of anybody who can do it please to establish a life in Russia or London, to find a good wife and work again. First of all if you are a lawyer in Russia, or if you know such a lawyer accepts to help me for free, right now you can save my life and future. You may help me financially by giving money or you may defend me in the court or you may help me to find a job and earn money if you can. Please dont think you have nothing to do, you can not help me. Everybody can do something, at least by forwarding this blog to friends helping me to promote it to people as many as possible to increase my chance.
Thank you very much........
